What an exciting development!

OK, I can't hold it back any longer. It was only last night that I realised that I was, more or less, on my life purpose since 1986. Back then, I used to (reluctantly, at the time) train young children from the age of four through to the late teens in Kung Fu. Since then, I've worked with children in Kickboxing, athletics, education and so much more. I used to own two Kung Fu schools and teach for my master at a third school, too.

There were two things that all my work have in common. Results and fun. Many of my former students became champions and high acheivers in their respective fields. However, there is also another common theme that's not so admirable. 85% of the children with the behavioural challenges have a poor relationship or even no relationship with their dads. No matter how much work an inspirational speaker/trainer or teachers do with young people, one of the most powerful influencers in a child's life is their dad. There is no substitute.

That's exactly why I've been working away at creating an education program that will encourage dads and help them to evolve themselves as inspirational role models for their children. The first program that is available to all dads (and mums, too) is the new 'Amazing Dads' audio CD program. As it's so difficult to get everything into one 60-minute CD, I've bundled a whole lot of other free bonus gifts to help dads all over the world.

The message is loud and clear. If you want to make a difference to the future of the world you're living in, begin with creating better leaders of the world - the children...your children. If you want to transform the lives of your children, begin the transformation of your life first. Children do as you do...not as you say.

Keep shining!

Harun Rabbani

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Dads at Birthday Parties

Last Friday evening my niece was celebrating her 4th birthday party with her family and friends. She had the time of her life with her friends and cousins from the age of two through to her eleven-year old brother. There must have been approximately 48 people at her party!

There was one thing though that stuck out like a sore thumb for me. All the mums (14 in total) of the children were present at the party, but other than my brother-in-law and me, not one of the children were accompanied by their dads.

Could it be that all the dads were at work? (The party was from 4.30pm till 7pm.) Are birthday parties not so important enough for dads to attend? Would children prefer to not have their dads around at parties?

To be honest, I don't have an answer. But I do know this much: Every experience your child has involves an overflow of emotions and feelings. During peak events (positive or negative ones), permanent emotions are created which become part of a child's physiological make-up. Those molecules of emotion are spread throughout different parts of the body and are part of, what we call, the 'mind'.

In other words, when your child is experiencing a peak state, they will subconsciously associate those 'happy' moments with all that is going on in their environment and the activities they're doing with the people they're doing it with. As a dad, even if you were doing no more than being present when your child is enjoying the fun with their friends, they will associate the feelings of 'fun' with you.

And the more often you're present when they're having a fun time (especially when they're below the age of 7 or 8), the more he/she will associate fun with you throughout their life. What a powerful way to build an inspirational relationship with your child!!!

Harun Rabbani

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Earlier this afternoon, I was at Euston train station in London with my friend, Naomi, returning from Watford. As we crossed the ticket barriers, there was a lot of noise and scuffles around one man. He was bleeding profusely from his nose. We managed to make out that somebody had head-butted this guy and ran off to get on the train.

A few minutes later, after the police finally managed to arrive, they escorted a man in his early-mid thirties from the train back into the station. Walking on either side of him were two young children - a boy aged about 4 and a girl of 6 years. The father of the two children was shouting and swearing profanities and was demanding to be released because he was with his children.

As he was resisting so much, the police cuffed the man who started shouting and swearing even more. At this point, his daughter and son started screaming for the police to let him go. In that instant, almost every onlooker stopped to find out what was going on. Both Naomi and I felt our hearts jump out at the children's screaming and anguish. Finally, more police arrived, including one woman officer. They managed to calm the man down and she eventually got the children to calm down too.

It transpired that the father of the children was rushing to get to his train when a passenger going the opposite way got in his way. They both tried squeezing through a ticket barrier - one with a big suitcase and the other with two children. Rather than let the other through, the father head-butted the other passenger, probably breaking his nose in the process.

What's going on that:

1. People are so rushed that they do not notice other children and give way?

2. A father cares not in the least about gross violence and anger towards another fellow human being?

3. A father has so little consciousness that he thinks nothing of the impact his profanities and physical actions will have on his children.

Given the nature of his daughter's scream, I have no doubt that this poor girl was traumatised and will be so from this horrid experience.This just reinforces my observation in the work that I do with teens and young adults. One of the prime reason so many young people have behavioural issues is because of the kind of relationship they have with their dads.

There are far too many dads playing a deadbeat role instead of a conscious role in their children's lives. I truly hope the work we're doing through the likes of my 'Amazing Dads' CD programme and Naomi Sesay's Conscious Parenting (both released this week) and workshops reaches the likes of the father we witnessed at Euston Station.

As dads, we are responsible for not just the well-being of our children today, but also the impact they have as future leaders. Perhaps we should be mindful of the way we think and behave.

Harun Rabbani