Have you noticed one of the biggest challenges that men have about their own personal growth, especially regarding relationships? They dare not admit that they could do with help! I don't know what it is about the male genetic make-up, but we just don't seem to have the courage to ask for help. Trial and error seems to be the top rung of ladder.
However, there is a new breed of man who does want to know how to build better relationships with their child. How do I know? Because of the wonderful response I'm getting from the recently launched Amazing Dads audio program, which is helping so many dads to build an inspirational relationship with their child.
However, I need more help to get this message of hope out there to children across the world. And I need your help. I am currently writing a book on Amazing Dads. If you have a story you'd like to share about a father-child relationship in this book, then please drop me a line. You don't have to be a father. You can be a mother, a sister, brother, daughter, son, etc. What I'm looking for are stories of inspiration. Please contact me by email - thepersuader@harunrabbani.com.
Many thanks for your help!
Harun Rabbani
PS Please remember to order your copy of Amazing Dads online and receive £79 worth of bonus gifts!
Saturday, 23 August 2008
Celebrating your Child's Success
When I think about my own childhood and the memories of my own acheivement, my father had an approach to praise that used to baffle me. He would never outwardly demonstrate his pleasure about any of my acheivements, whether it be academic, vocational or as a sporting champion. So we never celebrated any of my results. In years to come, I never told my parents about my many achievements and the goals I'd reached.
The contrast between the relationship between my father and me and that between my children and myself is as stark as you can get. As a child, the communication between my father and I was on a 'need-to-know' basis. Therefore, he ended up knowing nothing of me and little about my life. That was not the kind of relationship I wanted with my children.
My children and I are the best of friends and we share so much joy together about all the little things as well as the bog ones. Yesterday, for example, my 8 year old and 6 year old sons ended a weeklong training at a local soccer school. Being the mad football fans that they are, this was pure bliss for them. Unfortunately, due to the distance they live from where they live and where I live, it wasn't possible for me to attend the training. Nonetheless, yesterday it was 'graduation day' from the school. Come hell or high water, I had to be there.
You should have seen the looks on their face when I turned up just before their graduation. It was priceless. Their sense of pride and accomplishment was so endearing...and they could show it all off to their dad. These are moments of inspiration that are irreplaceable. Your child will cherish this for life.
So think about how much you celebrate your child's success. Where and when do you give your attention? When they've done well or when they've done something that disappointed you? When your attention stays focused on the good stuff, they'll end up doing more of it. Today, make a list of 7 things you're going to celebrate with your child over the next 7 days. AND TAKE ACTION ON IT!
To your parenting success!
Harun Rabbani
The contrast between the relationship between my father and me and that between my children and myself is as stark as you can get. As a child, the communication between my father and I was on a 'need-to-know' basis. Therefore, he ended up knowing nothing of me and little about my life. That was not the kind of relationship I wanted with my children.
My children and I are the best of friends and we share so much joy together about all the little things as well as the bog ones. Yesterday, for example, my 8 year old and 6 year old sons ended a weeklong training at a local soccer school. Being the mad football fans that they are, this was pure bliss for them. Unfortunately, due to the distance they live from where they live and where I live, it wasn't possible for me to attend the training. Nonetheless, yesterday it was 'graduation day' from the school. Come hell or high water, I had to be there.
You should have seen the looks on their face when I turned up just before their graduation. It was priceless. Their sense of pride and accomplishment was so endearing...and they could show it all off to their dad. These are moments of inspiration that are irreplaceable. Your child will cherish this for life.
So think about how much you celebrate your child's success. Where and when do you give your attention? When they've done well or when they've done something that disappointed you? When your attention stays focused on the good stuff, they'll end up doing more of it. Today, make a list of 7 things you're going to celebrate with your child over the next 7 days. AND TAKE ACTION ON IT!
To your parenting success!
Harun Rabbani
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